Yesterday, Nikki, Amber, and Hannah led us in a discussion on the essay, "What are Friends For?" We analyzed the types of friendships covered in the essay. We also tried to figure out if those types accurately reflect the friendships in our lives. We wanted to know if the essay contained generalization or truth.
Our findings? The essay is full of generalizations. However, unlike "Beauty and the Beast," these generalizations were presented in a comical tone. The tone made it easier for us to take. We laughed, instead of feeling offended.
Through talking, we also found that these generalizations can be supported with real life examples. In class, we went around the room, telling stories about friends that fit into the categories. Most specifically, we discussed three types of friends.
1. The friends with whom you grow apart, but when you get together, you can pick right back up where you left off.
2. The friends who make you feel better about yourself.
3. The friends that "nobody likes."
We found abundant examples of each. It's interesting to wonder: Why do so many of us have the same kinds of friendships? What does this say about us as people?
Perry made a really smart comment, regarding friend #2. He pointed out that it's easy to identify a friend's flaws and project them on yourself. But often, we have more in common with those flaws than we think. It's interesting to consider why we choose the friends we do. Are we looking to spend time with people who are just like us? Or do we pick friends who are nothing like us? Do we actively try to make friends? Or do friends develop organically out of chance encounters?
Tricia mused on the role that college plays on friendships. It tests the strength of relationships. Some friends go to different schools and never reunite. Others are able to get together and pick right back up, as if no time has past.
At the same time, college forces us to become friends with people who we wouldn't normally seek out. For example, our school merges "city folk" with "country folk." Being stuck on the campus together causes everyone to be much more open minded and accepting of each other's culture and past.
Personally, I regret that we didn't get to talk about one of my favorite friend categories: the FRIENEMIE!